There is a difference between identifying key and important values and sharing many of those values and deciding to only focus on finding someone who shares all your values.

I cherish my friendships and relationships with people who often have different values. Why when this leads to heated debates that are sometimes uncomfortable? Because the life lived without self reflection and growth is a pretty poor life. I refuse to live in a bubble with people who only agree with me although it would be really comfortable. That would be so so boring

At some point this pandemic morphed and will now have to be acknowledged endemic. We will have to live with Covid just like we live with the flu. Are you really going to chose someone based mostly or on large part by whether they are vaccinated? Did you do this for the flu?

I am vaccinated and think it’s the wisest chose but I don’t think the unvaccinated are evil. They may have valid reasons for questioning the vaccine and we are being dishonest with ourselves if we don’t look at those risks or deny them. Some people do have adverse reactions. If you are young and have no other health issues you will survive Covid. Most of those who died had many health issues.

Right now I know that my daughter who followed all the rules AND only saw vaccinated people caught Covid. She is fully vaccinated and caught it from another vaccinated person. What does that tell me ? We need to just live our lives and stop obsessing.